getting started
As a photographer, I believe your engagement session is one of the most important parts of the pre-wedding process for five reasons:
YOU'RE ENGAGED... CONGRATULATIONS!
It gives us a chance to spend time together and get to know each other better before the big day.
It gives you a chance to get comfortable in front of my camera so you’ll know exactly what to do and be posing pros by the time the wedding rolls around. Having this experience will make a HUGE impact on how the wedding day flows because I’ll be able to arrive on your wedding day already knowing how you two interact, what your best poses are and how to photograph you in a genuine way!
It gives you a set of beautiful images that you can use for save-the-dates, your wedding website, prints to display at the rehearsal dinner or reception, frames for your wall in your new home together and so much more!
Having photos taken and edited by the same photographer for both your engagement and wedding photos will provide consistency throughout when they are displayed either on a wall, in a book, or wherever else you plan on presenting them!
Most importantly, it gives you a way to freeze this special time in your life. A chance to pause, take a deep breath and relish in this season together. You’ll be husband and wife for fifty plus years, but you only get to be a fiance for a short little window of your life!
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XOXO,
LINDSEY
I’m so excited for your engagement session! Marriage is the best! You have such a fun journey ahead!
My goal is simple: for your session to be as fun and stress-free as possible! That’s why I’ve created this guide just for you! The following pages will help you get the absolute most out of your photos. By the time you’ve read through my best tips, tricks, and insider secrets, you'll have all of your questions answered and feel ready and prepared for your session! Your only job is to be yourself, laugh a lot, have fun and let me do the rest! I can’t wait to get you in front of my camera and I’m so excited to see you soon!
- SCHEDULING YOUR SESSION
table of contents
- TIMELINE EXAMPLES
- planning your time
- choosing your location
- destination engagements
- props + Activities
- style tips for her
- outfit inspo
- fall + winter sessions
- style tips for him
- how to prep your man
- after the session
- photo delivery
- one last note
Outdoors, in natural light, because I love images that are clean, bright, fresh and timeless. Images that look and feel like you. That’s why I begin all of my sessions 1-2 hours before the scheduled sunset –– during the magical “golden hour” –– when the light in the sky is the softest, dreamiest and most flattering.
You can use a sunset calculator online to determine the scheduled sunset for the date and location you’d like to do your session. Then, just subtract two hours to figure out your approximate session start time. In super populated places or busy times, a sun-rise session might be necessary.
Your engagement session can be scheduled anytime before your wedding day. I normally suggest booking the session at least 3-6 months in advance to avoid stress and to make sure you have time to send out save the dates if you want to use the images. When scheduling your date, it’s important to remember that the sun sets much earlier during the colder months of the year and much later during the warmer months, so make sure to factor that in when choosing your engagement session date –– especially if you’re taking off work or have evening plans afterward. I always recommend going out for a fun date night afterward since you’re already dressed up!
My weekends fill up fast and far in advance, but my weekdays are much more flexible. So if you’d like to do your session sooner rather than later, scheduling mid-week is the way to go!
In the event of rain on the radar, I prefer to wait until 4-5 hours before the session before choosing to reschedule. If we get rain on your session day, we can discuss a new date to reschedule. However, the exception for this day-of choice is if extensive travel is involved for your engagement session. If it’s a long drive but local, then we would schedule a plan B rain date at the same time we schedule the original date. If flying is involved, we would discuss alternate locations, using an umbrella to make it work in a new romantic way, or possibly extending the trip to try again the next morning/evening.
SCHEDULING YOUR SESSION
I photograph engagement sessions the way I like to be photographed myself:
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example timeline no.
Sunset 7:00 p.m. - One Outfit
5:30 p.m. Arrive
5:45 p.m. Photograph Outfit #1
7:00 p.m. You made it! Go on a hot date!
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example timeline no.
Sunset 7:00 p.m. - Two Outfits
4:45 p.m. Arrive
5:00 p.m. Photograph Outfit #1
5:45 p.m. Change Outfits
6:00 p.m. Photograph Outfit #2
7:00 p.m. You made it! Go on a hot date!
Planning Your Time
When you’re planning "getting ready" time before your session (scheduling your hair, makeup, etc.) please give yourself a lot more time than you think you'll need. Make sure to account for things like traffic, getting lost and parking. To prevent unnecessary stress, arrive a few minutes early to your session and be ready to start on time. We’re only able to shoot when light is still in the sky, so we’ll want to take advantage of every minute we have together before the sun goes down!
Planning Your Time
Choosing your location
The location of your portrait session is completely up to you! For most of my sessions, outdoor, open-air environments are always my first choice. I love shooting in wide-open natural spaces because the light is divine, especially during golden hour. There are great options all around the state, so even if you've never seen me photograph in a specific place before, I’m always up for exploring a new spot together!
If you can’t think of anywhere specific that you would like to shoot, I can help you decide on a location! It’s always helpful if you can describe or share photos of some location looks that you prefer so I can have a direction for what to recommend. Ask yourself, do you prefer nature or city settings and start brainstorming from there! As long as the light is great, I can make ANY location look awesome!
think outside the box
I LOVE it when couples pick a location that is special or sentimental to them in some way
When it comes to choosing a location, don't be afraid to think outside the box! I encourage you to brainstorm unique places that you might have special access to that most people don’t. For example, maybe you (or someone you know) have access to an amazing location that would otherwise be off-limits, like a beautiful private estate, family ranch, exclusive country club or luxury resort. Spend a few minutes thinking about it and checking around with people in your personal and professional network. You’ll be surprised with what you come up with! If something seems out of reach, just remember: you never know until you ask! You can also consider Airbnb or other property rental sites. In the past, my couples have secured permission to shoot in some pretty incredible places!
If you need some location ideas and inspiration, I have plenty! Check out my Instagram @lindseywhitephoto and engagement sessions in my blog. If there’s a certain session you really love, just let me know which one and we can go to that location!
I've done engagement sessions from Minnesota to Texas, everywhere in between and even in Florida, too!
Your engagement session includes my travel time within a 60 mile radius of my house in Prior Lake, MN. If you’d like to go somewhere else in Minnesota, I’m up for the adventure! If you’d like to shoot outside of the 60-mile radius, there would be a $0.62/mile travel fee. For example, driving to Duluth, MN is 152 miles from me, so 152 - 60 miles = 92 miles x 2 ways = 184 miles x $0.62 = $114.08 travel fee. For destination sessions, I allow three hours (instead of two) so we have enough time to drive to multiple scenic spots.
If I’m already going to be in or near an area you’ve always dreamed of doing your photos, and we can coordinate our schedules, let’s set it up! I’d love to meet you somewhere beautiful and make it work! If you’d like me to meet you in a destination outside of Minnesota for your engagement session where I don’t already have plans to visit, just let me know and we’ll send you a custom quote. If you live outside Minnesota, it is usually more cost effective to fly me out to you, then flying two people out to me!
destination engagements
Styling your session
prop ideas
If you want your engagement session images to look and feel a little more editorial, I recommend bringing a few small, simple props with you, like fresh flowers to hold or a blanket to sit on. If you want to set up a picnic or incorporate another special element into your session, just let me know! Maybe you have access to some larger props that have a real “wow” factor, like a boat, classic car, vintage bicycle or hot air balloon. This is the time to dream a little bit and decide what really feels like you! Props aren’t a must by any means. Some of my couples love them and go all out. Some pick one or two items to bring. Others stick with just their outfits –– and that’s great, too! The most important things you need to bring to your session are love and laughter. I'll take care of the rest.
Examples of activities to do during your session:
- Reading books
- Cooking
- Drinking beer/wine
- Climbing
- Bringing your dog
- Dancing
- Netflix binging
- Playing board games
- Playing music
- Having a picnic
- Fishing
- Camping
- Any sport
seasonal activities
- baking cookings
- Sipping coffee/hot coco by a warm fire
- Cozy in-home session
- Ice skating
- Picnic outside (snacks or beverages with a blanket)
- Beach
- boating
- State fair
- Bike riding
- Patio dining and/or happy - hour drinks
- Going to a brewery
- Going to a winery
- Getting some ice cream
- Bonfire
- Golfing
- Going to the zoo
- Finding a sunflower field (late August or September)
- Cherry blossoms (usually blooms mid to late May in Minnesota)
- MN Landscape Arboretum has amazing Tulips and other spring flowers! (also during mid to late May)
SPRING summer fall winter
- Apple picking
- Apple orchard
- Football game
- Decorating pumpkins
- Consume all things pumpkin spice
Just give me a heads up if your ideas may require more prep time or certain locations so I can plan accordingly (EX: cooking in a kitchen would require a specific location and cooking could take longer)
- Sports jerseys
- Charcuterie board
- Guitar/music
- Any sports props like a ball, bat, bike, etc that go with a sport.
- Blanket: to sit on or cuddle around. The best blanket would be one that is of a neutral color (white, grey, black, tan) and solid in color. Plaid blankets can work if they aren't distracting from your outfits
- Sign with your wedding date on it
- Cute ring box
- Chair or couch to sit on, like in the middle of a field
- Your car or a vintage car
Styling tips
for her
dress it up
Have you been eyeing a gorgeous dress, but just never had an occasion for it?
This is your chance to do it up! Remember: there’s no such thing as “too dressed up” when it comes to your engagement session, so don’t be afraid to have some fun! If you don’t want to spend a ton of money adding a new permanent piece to your wardrobe, a lot of my brides love Rent the Runway for their engagement photos because you don’t have to spend a lot to feel like a million bucks. Plus, you can send the outfits back when the session is over. Some of my brides love having an excuse to go shopping and purchase a new permanent piece (or two!) for their wardrobe –– and that’s okay, too! Whatever works for you!
say to the
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dress
There's nothing more romantic than a long, flowy dress. Dresses and skirts tend to look most stunning on camera because they really flatter the female body — which is probably why the red carpet is always full of so many dresses and not very many pantsuits! I recommend choosing long, flowy dresses or skirts because they’re flattering on all body types, look amazing on camera and bring extra movement and dimension to your photos. Maxi (or floor length) skirts and dresses will give us the best “twirl factor,” add more romance to your walking photos, and look especially gorgeous when juxtaposed with nature, like the desert, forest, fields or beach. Cute, shorter cocktail-length dresses or midi skirts photograph beautifully as well. My brides who choose to bring two dresses will sometimes choose one of each! I recommend avoiding pants and shorts for your session, and saying yes to a dress (or skirt!) or two! You won't regret it!
One or Two? It’s Up to You!
Most of my brides who choose two outfits will bring one “wow” dress, and then another shorter cocktail-length dress or midi/maxi skirt for a more casual “us on a date” feel. But if you want to bring two “wow” dresses and forgo the more relaxed dress altogether, give yourself permission to do it! The camera loves runway-esque apparel and so do we! Remember, though, you don’t have to bring two looks if it’s too stressful. If you’d rather just stick to one fabulous outfit, that’s fine, too! One look that you love will be so much better than one outfit you love and another you’re not very excited about. So, whether it’s one or two is really up to you!
If you’re having a hard time making up your mind, feel free to shoot me an email with pictures! We’d be happy to help you narrow down your options or give you my opinion about what will look best on camera!
choosing colors
When choosing colors for your outfits, I recommend selecting lighter, neutral tones and more muted shades. Bright, bold or neon colors are distracting and take the focus away from where it should be: you two and how much you love each other. You can never go wrong with light neutral colors like cream, taupe, camel or light gray. The camera loves shades of soft pinks and muted blues, mixed with sophisticated light-colored neutrals. That softer, more pastel-leaning color palette fits beautifully into almost all natural outdoor environments –– and especially complements the city and beach vibe! Solid colors and less patterns are usually best since it's less busy and less distracting. But, if you love color, floral patterns, or other bold looks more, that’s okay! However, if one person wears a color or busy pattern, have the other wear a solid neutral option to go with it so it’s balanced out.
coordinating the looks
You should each wear a different dominant color, but stay within a similar color palette family. So if you’re wearing a blush dress and nude heels (blush being your dominant color), then he could wear a navy coat with gray pants, paired with brown leather shoes and maybe even a blush pocket square. Now he has his own dominant color (navy) while still incorporating a few touches of your color palette. Most of my brides choose their dress first, and then put together their fiance’s outfit based on that. That’s why I have a section for each of you!
As you’re coordinating your outfit with your fiance’s, keep in mind that your outfits will look the most cohesive on camera when the color palette and wardrobe pieces coordinate, but don’t actually “match.”
Flattering Your Features
In my experience, every woman (regardless of her size or shape) has an area of her body that she’s self conscious about. Recognizing the areas you’re self conscious about when selecting your outfits is key. Choosing flattering silhouettes and colors that complement your natural features is the best way to ensure you’ll love the way you look in your photos. Three-quarter length sleeves create an awesome slimming effect on all arms, so be on the lookout for an option with a longer length sleeve. If your dress has shorter sleeves (or no sleeves) consider bringing a cute jacket, blazer, cardigan or pashmina to incorporate into your look. Skinny straps or strapless dresses have the opposite effect on arms on camera. For most women, skinny straps actually make arms look BIGGER. So I recommend avoiding those whenever possible if your goal is slimmer-looking arms. If it’s colder outside, I suggest bringing a warm coat (the longer, the better!) to wear when we’re not shooting so you don’t freeze in your dress.
For shoes, keep in mind that heels elongate women’s legs and force constant tension in the calves –– which makes them look more toned. Closed-toes heels, in particular, look great on camera because they carry out the line of your leg all the way down to your toe. You can never go wrong with a pair of neutral pumps! If your toes are showing in a peep-toe heel, you might want to schedule a pedicure before your session so you don’t regret letting your toes show. Lastly, make sure to bring a pair of flats to wear when moving from place to place. Your feet will thank you later!
go pro:
hair & makeup
It looks amazing on camera and removes the stress of getting ready on your own. You’ll have these photos forever, so this is the time to pamper yourself! Whether it’s lash extensions or blown-out hair, professional hair and makeup will give you an extra boost of confidence in front of the camera, and it always photographs like a dream. If you’re working with a makeup artist, have her apply your makeup in natural light (if possible) so that it looks fresh and not too heavy. Plus, that’s the type of light we’ll be shooting in, so it’ll give you the best expectation of how it will translate on camera. Most of my brides feel like their makeup is “too much” at first, since it’s more than they would wear on a normal day, so if you feel that way at the beginning, don’t worry! Good makeup artists know how to get it just right for the camera — and my brides always love the final result. If you need a recommendation for hair and makeup, I work with the best in the business and have a go-to team! They’re sweet as pie, talented as heck, unbelievable professionals and wonderful people. You’ll LOVE them! Just let me know and we’ll send you their information. I know they’ll take good care of you!
Professional hair and makeup is on the top of most of my brides’ engagement session checklist.
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make a
Pairing an accessory or two with your outfit can really help bring some extra dimension to your images. Whether it’s a necklace, belt, bracelet, earrings, hat, or scarf, bringing an accessory or two can bring great visual interest to your photos, so choose one or two that don’t compete for attention when paired together. For example, if you go with bolder earnings, you might want to choose a more humble necklace, or maybe even no necklace at all. Fresh florals in a crown or bouquet can be a really romantic touch as well!
clean your ring
Your ring hand will be featured in a lot of the photos, so if you have time before your session, I recommend getting your ring cleaned and treating yourself to a manicure.
outfit inspiration
fall and winter sessions
When seasons change and temperatures drop, sometimes it’s just too cold for a dress and heels by themselves (no matter how warm your coverup overcoat is). So I have some suggestions for late fall and winter that will still help you be fashion-forward and keep your color tones camera friendly.
First, let’s talk about color palettes. Just like in warmer weather, I recommend muted hues over bold, primary colors. During fall, warm neutrals like camel, taupe, cream, champagne, and gray are still going to look great. If you’d like to incorporate color, choose sophisticated jewel-toned versions of bright primary colors. Here are some examples: mustard over yellow, crimson or burgundy over red, camel over orange, sage or emerald over green, and powder blue or navy over blue. These jewel tones will photograph beautifully in any season.
Add a peacoat, tights, scarves and heeled booties to a form-fitting cocktail dress.
Statement coat with a beanie, scarf and gloves or a warm, oversized, snuggly sweater with tall boots and a hat. The great thing about snow is it creates a beautiful white backdrop, so even though it might seem counterintuitive, soft pastel, muted colors like soft pinks and powder blues still look great! And, remember, regardless of the setting, you can never go wrong with neutrals!
cold weather tips:
snow sessions:
Styling tips
for him
Tops and Bottoms
The same way that a dress is the most flattering silhouette for the female body, a blazer, sport coat or suit jacket has the same flattering effect for men. You can’t go wrong with a dress shirt, slacks and a blazer, or a well-tailored suit.
Colors
For colors, I recommend neutrals and soft, warm tones that complement your bride’s look. When selecting your pieces, I recommend choosing a different “weight” for the pants and coat. So for example, navy pants (darker) and a heather gray coat (lighter). Or gray pants (darker) with a soft powder blue shirt (lighter).
Suits
When selecting a suit for photos, the most important part isn’t the price. It’s the fit. For men, it’s critical to have a suit jacket that fits snugly (but not too tight), and pants that are the correct length and don’t have too many breaks. Just like high heels make women look taller than they are, bunched up fabric stacked on top of a man’s shoes makes him look physically shorter than he really is. If you already have a suit that you like and want to wear at your session, make sure to try it on a few weeks beforehand (with the shoes you’ll be wearing) so you have time to make alterations if needed.
If you don’t have a suit, now’s the perfect time to invest in something you’ll wear for the rest of your life! The best part? It’s a lot less expensive than you might think! While custom suits can cost thousands of dollars, some of the most well-known brands sell really nice off-the-rack suits for a fraction of the price that, with a few alterations from a good tailor, can be made to fit like a glove.
Solid shades of gray or navy are a strong complement to most women’s outfits, whereas pinstripes or plaid patterns tend to distract the eye, so stay away from too strong of prints, and opt for solids instead. I recommend that you avoid patterns that are smaller than a quarter! These small patterns can create strange visual effects in a digital camera. If you're unsure, feel free to send me a photo of the outfit.
Also, empty your pockets! Leave your wallet and phone in the car!
layered looks
The next time you walk by a store like J. Crew or Banana Republic, you’ll notice the male mannequins and models are always wearing several layers at once. Layers on men look great on camera, so even when it’s hot outside, it’s worth an hour or two of discomfort for photos that will last you both a lifetime. Adding extra layers will bring additional dimension and visual interest to your photos. If the temperature permits, he could even consider adding a v-neck sweater with a pop of color from a long-sleeved collared shirt and tie underneath. Don’t be afraid to get a little creative with layers!
It’s All in the Details
Long pants and closed-toed shoes are the most sophisticated and masculine looks for men. They draw attention away from his legs and feet, and place it where you want it: on the face you fell in love with. So, for your session, it’s best to leave the shorts and sandals at home. Suit pants, dress pants or colored pants work best. Brown leather dress shoes complement almost every look, whether he’s wearing a full suit, or a blazer and colored pants. Ties, bowties, pocket squares, colored socks, belts, tie clips, suspenders, vests, and watches are sharp complements to any suit. If you bring two suits to the session, you can start with a traditional necktie and belt, then switch to suspenders and a bow tie for your second look. If two suits are too stressful, no problem! One look will do the trick! A lot of my grooms wear one suit and just change their dress shirt and/or pocket square/tie. Other guys wear one pair of pants and change their jacket. You can still mix and match accessories to complement both of her dresses without doing a full change during the session. So, either way, you win.
If you’re a bride that is a little anxious about how your groom is going to react to this whole “picture” thing, you’re not alone. I receive so many emails from brides who are worried that their groom won’t be into it and I have great news for you.... you both are more photogenic than you think! I am constantly surprising couples by discovering their hidden modeling skills and the most common response from my grooms is “That wasn’t as bad as I thought! It was actually fun”. Boom! Mission accomplished! When the groom says that taking pictures was FUN, I have done my job well! Your engagement session is supposed to be fun and relaxed, not forced or awkward.
Most men aren’t overly excited to take photos for two hours, mostly because they don’t have an expectation of what’s to come and why it’s so important to you, which is why I recommend sitting down together for fifteen minutes to educate and empower your man. Tell him why you chose me and my style of photography. Show him your three favorite sessions that we’ve done, explain why you love the photos so much and express to him how much this session means to you. Trust us, if he loves you, he’ll bring his A-game and light up the camera for you! The most common thing I hear from guys before portrait sessions is this: because of a bad experience in the past, they don’t like taking photos or don’t feel like they’ll be good at it. By the time the session is over, though, most guys can’t believe how fast it went and just how much fun they had!
Discuss what you would like to do together for the session so he feels he has some input, too. Plan your outfits together, and at least a week before the session so there’s no last minute stressful changes.
Last but not least, remember to have patience with him, and don’t assume that he’s not going to have a good time... I think you’ll be surprised how much you will both enjoy your session!
Allow for plenty of time to get to your shoot! There is nothing worse than when a couple shows up late, and they have been arguing in the car! That is definitely going to put your groom in a bad mood!
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Even though taking photos might not be his favorite thing... YOU are!
practical tips
how to prep your man
After the session
Don’t forget to plan a dinner date for after your session! You’re already going to be all dolled-up! Why not take advantage of it?! I know the wedding planning process can feel all-consuming, so take some time after the session to relax, have some fun together and celebrate this season of your life!
Even though I’m so excited about your wedding, the thing I am MOST excited about is your marriage! One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is this: never stop dating each other. So if you ask us, your engagement session is a great excuse to plan a date night!
One month after your session, I’ll send you a link to your online gallery with all of your final, retouched, high-resolution images. You can share the link with your family and friends, post to social media and more! I recommend changing the lock screen on your phone first :) Also, don’t forget! Your gallery comes with unlimited downloads for you and anyone you share the link with, as well as the option to purchase prints from my professional lab and have them drop-shipped straight to your door. If you prefer, you can also upload the digital files to the retail lab of your choice (I recommend Costco or Shutterfly for that!) and print them there.
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one final note...
I know I just gave you A LOT to think about! Don’t panic :) Just take it one step at a time. I provided an Engagement Session Checklist for you on the next page to help you stay organized and on top of things! But if you have any questions at any point, please know I’m here for you! If you’re deciding between two dresses and can’t commit, no problem! I’m here. If you love two locations but can’t make up your mind, no worries! I can help with that, too. If you need a recommendation of any kind, I’m on it! Remember, I’m just one email away :)
At the end of the day, though, the location you choose and the outfits you wear won’t matter nearly as much as the fun we have together and the memories you make as a couple. The style choices you make will definitely enhance your photos, but the most important accessory to bring with you is joyfulness –– which is the one that makes the biggest difference in your photos anyways. You don’t need to have prior experience in front of the camera. Just show up with a smile and I’ll take care of the rest :)
Relax! You don’t have to be a pro at this! I’m going to help you along the way and it’s going to be a blast! Enjoy this time together, and make a date out of it!
Lastly, above all else, I want you to know that you (as people) are the most important thing to me. Your marriage matters most. So if there’s ever anything I can do to serve your relationship today, tomorrow, before the wedding or years down the road, please know that I’m here for you and my door is always open. Because marriage isn’t the ball and chain or handcuffs our current culture parodies it to be. It’s the best thing you’ll ever do… because it causes you to be the best you you’ll ever be.